tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-367099062024-02-19T10:59:37.524+00:00Thought for the DayTim LeBon's Thought for the day.
Tim is a London-based CBT therapist, life coach, educator & author.
Here are some quotes and ideas he finds interesting or inspiring.
Hope they help you flourish.Tim LeBonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04060569828784996629noreply@blogger.comBlogger121125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36709906.post-55076958099199357742017-02-23T09:12:00.003+00:002017-02-23T09:12:33.176+00:00The latest on how to live a healthy a longer life<div style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "Guardian Text Egyptian Web", Georgia, serif; margin-bottom: 1rem; padding: 0px;">
Sarah Toule (World <a class="u-underline" data-component="auto-linked-tag" data-link-name="auto-linked-tag" href="https://www.theguardian.com/society/cancer" style="background: transparent; border-bottom: 0.0625rem solid rgb(220, 220, 220); color: #005689; cursor: pointer; text-decoration: none !important; touch-action: manipulation; transition: border-color 0.15s ease-out;">Cancer</a> Research Fund)</div>
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“People should aim to eat at least five portions of vegetables and fruit a day but the more the better. If people find this hard, why not start by adding an extra portion of fruit or veg a day to your lunch or try swapping one of your naughty snacks for a piece of fruit?”</div>
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The secret of realizing the greatest fruitfulness and the greatest enjoyment of existence is: to live dangerously! Build your cities on the slopes of Vesuvius! Send your ships out into uncharted seas! Live in conflict with your equals and with yourselves! Be robbers and ravagers as soon as you ca not be rulers and owners, you men of knowledge! The time will soon past when you could be content to live concealed int he woods like timid deer!</blockquote>
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<span style="font-size: 14px;"> </span><i style="font-size: 14px;"><a href="https://www.goodreads.com/work/quotes/2382792" style="color: #666600; text-decoration: none;">The Gay Science: with a Prelude in Rhymes and an Appendix of Songs</a></i><br />
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View Alain de Botton's programme on Nietzsche<br />
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<span style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12.8000001907349px;">"Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass...It's about learning to dance in the rain.”</span></blockquote>
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Whilst this quote might sound over-idealistic and, as my good friend Peter Cooper says "be the kind of thing John Lennon would have written a song about", I believe it contains a healthy nugget of wisdom.<br />
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It's a vote against resignation, against giving in, against just waiting for things to get better. When I see depressed clients a key message is<br />
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<b> Dont wait to feel motivated - take a small step in the right direction now, and then motivation will follow.</b></blockquote>
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That's the "don't wait for the storm to pass" part.<br />
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Dancing in the rain, though, seriously? Well. the idea of Singing in the Rain is hardly new ..<br />
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I'm also reminded of John Locke's characteristic response in the first series of Lost.<br />
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The good idea here is to adapt to the circumstances we find ourselves in as best we can. Don't assume that you can't do anything positive because there is a storm in our life. You might even find something really positive ...<br />
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<b><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></b><b><span style="font-size: large;">Do or do not. There is no try</span></b><b><span style="font-size: large;"> Yoda</span></b></blockquote>
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This is a key principle in<a href="http://www.christophermartell.com/ba.php" target="_blank"> Behavioural Activation</a> and in <a href="https://www.google.co.uk/url?sa=t&rct=j&q=&esrc=s&source=web&cd=1&cad=rja&uact=8&ved=0CCIQFjAA&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.amazon.co.uk%2FAchieve-Your-Potential-Positive-Psychology-ebook%2Fdp%2FB00E0JYSQ4&ei=zFVUVZyRM4acsAGho4GoBA&usg=AFQjCNHW5jzAiOl_WQp2ps4ccdl20Aj7Ig&sig2=fbA35GlRErMYBW_O8nc8QA&bvm=bv.93112503,d.bGg" target="_blank">Step-by-Step Planning.</a><div class="blogger-post-footer">Books: Achieve Your Potential with Positive Psychology & Wise Therapy
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif; font-size: large;">To ease another's heartache is to forget one's own </span></blockquote>
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See Schwartz and Sendor (1999) <i>Helping others helps oneself: response shift effects in peer support </i>for empircal support.<br />
<a href="http://old.dsav.asn.au/research/Helping%20others%20helps%20oneself%20by%20Schwartz%20&%20Sendor.pdf">http://old.dsav.asn.au/research/Helping%20others%20helps%20oneself%20by%20Schwartz%20&%20Sendor.pdf</a><div class="blogger-post-footer">Books: Achieve Your Potential with Positive Psychology & Wise Therapy
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evening, an elderly Cherokee brave told his<br />
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He said "my son, the battle is between two 'wolves' inside us all.<br />
One is evil. </span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 115%;">It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance,<br />
self-pity, guilt, resentment,inferiority, lies, false pride,superiority, and ego.<br />
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The other is good.<br />
It is joy, peace love, hope serenity,humility, kindness, benevolence,<br />
empathy, generosity,truth, compassion and faith."<br />
<br />The grandson though aboutit for a minute and then asked his grandfather:<br />
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"Which wolf wins?..."<br />
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"The one that you feed"<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 18px; line-height: 20.6999988555908px;"><i>This tale can be found in various forms. This version comes from</i></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 18px; line-height: 20.6999988555908px;"><i>http://www.nanticokeindians.org/tale_of_two_wolves.cfm</i></span></div>
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If you can sit quietly after difficult news; </blockquote>
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if, in financial downturns you remain perfectly calm; </blockquote>
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if you can see your neighbors travel to fantastic places without a twinge of jealousy; </blockquote>
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if you could happily eat whatever is put on your plate; </blockquote>
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if you can fall asleep after a day of running around without a drink or a pill; </blockquote>
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if you can always find contentment just where you are:</blockquote>
you are probably a dog.<br />
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<span style="background-color: ivory;"><span style="color: blue; font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Do I dare </span></span><span style="background-color: ivory;"><span style="color: blue; font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Disturb the universe? </span></span><span style="background-color: ivory;"><span style="color: blue; font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">In a minute there is time </span></span><span style="background-color: ivory;"><span style="color: blue; font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">For decisions and revisions which a minute will reverse. </span></span><span style="background-color: ivory;"><span style="color: blue; font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;"><br /></span></span><span style="background-color: ivory;"><span style="color: blue; font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;"> For I have known them all already, known them all; </span></span><span style="background-color: ivory;"><span style="color: blue; font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Have known the evenings, mornings, afternoons, </span></span><span style="background-color: ivory;"><span style="color: blue; font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">I have measured out my life with coffee spoons;</span></span></blockquote>
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<span style="background-color: ivory;"><span style="color: blue; font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">from <a href="http://people.virginia.edu/~sfr/enam312/prufrock.html" target="_blank">The Love Song of J. Alfred Prufrock</a></span></span><br />
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<span style="background-color: ivory;"><span style="color: blue; font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Brilliantly read by Anthony Hopkins.</span></span><br />
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“Intelligence is the ability to adapt to change. ”</blockquote>
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<span class="_Tgc" style="font-size: 16px;">The only freedom which deserves the name, is that of pursuing our own good in our own way, so long as we do not attempt to deprive others of theirs, or impede their efforts to obtain it. Each is the proper guardian of his own health, whether bodily, or mental and spiritual.</span></blockquote>
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Love has three components:<br />
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(a) intimacy, which encompasses the feelings of closeness, connectedness, and bondedness one experiences
in loving relationships;<br />
(b) passion, which encompasses the drives that lead to romance,
physical attraction, and sexual consummation; and<br />
(c) decision/commitment, which encompasses, in
the short term, the decision that one loves another, and in the long term, the commitment to maintain
that love<br />
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Robert Sternberg, <a href="http://pzacad.pitzer.edu/~dmoore/psych199/1986_sternberg_trianglelove.pdf" target="_blank">The Triangular Theory of Love</a><br />
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I discuss how the Triangular Theory of Love can help you understand - and improve - relationships in in <i><a href="http://www.amazon.co.uk/Achieve-Your-Potential-Positive-Psychology-ebook/dp/B00E0JYSQ4" target="_blank">Achieve Your Potential with Positive Psychology</a></i><br />
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off a cliff. His BMW was left teetering on the edge of a 100ft precipice
in Yorkshire after he had followed his satnav’s instructions, despite
increasing indications that he had ceded a shade too much control to the
gadget. “It just kept insisting the path was a road, even as it was
getting narrower and steeper,” the chap explained, “so I just trusted
it. I rely on my satnav. I couldn’t do without it for my job"<br />
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Marina Hyde writing in <a href="http://www.theguardian.com/sport/blog/2015/mar/11/england-cricket-world-cup-peter-moores" target="_blank">The Guardian </a>March 11th 2015<br />
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She mentions this in the context of over-reliance on technology and the England cricket team. I wonder if there are other lessons too such as<br />
- the dangers of auto-pilot (as opposed to mindfulness)<br />
- the pitfalls of obedience to authority<br />
- the pros and cons of advances in technology in general<br />
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What do you think?<br />
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<span style="background-color: white; color: #1f1f1f; font-family: 'Open Sans', 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 21px;">"[T]he office is one thing, and private life is another. When I go into the office, I leave the Castle behind me, and when I come into the Castle, I leave the office behind me. "</span><br />
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<span style="line-height: 24.480001449585px;">Mr Wemmick is Jagger's clerk in Great Expectations. He is a totally different character at home and at work. Pip prefers Wemmick at home</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white; color: black; font-family: 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.5em;">Wemmick’s house was a little wooden cottage in the middle of a large garden. The top of the house had been built and painted like a battery loaded with guns. I said I really liked it.</span></div>
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I think Wemmick’s house was the tiniest I had ever seen. It had very few windows, and the door was almost too small to get in.</div>
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‘Look’, said Wemmick, ‘after I have crossed this bridge, I raise it so that nobody can enter the Castle.’</div>
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The ’bridge’ was a plank, and it crossed a gap about four feet wide and two deep. But I enjoyed seeing the smile on Wemmick’s face and the pride with which he hoisted his bridge. The gun on the roof of the house, he told me, was fired every night at nine o’clock. I later heard it. Admittedly, it made an impressive sound.</div>
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‘At the back,’ he said, ‘there are fowls and rabbits. I have also got my own little vegetable garden, and I grow cucumbers. Wait until supper and you’ll see for yourself what kind of salad I can make. If the Castle is ever attacked, I will be able to hold out for quite a while,’ he said with a smile, but at the same time seriously.</div>
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He led me to a little leafy shelter which was only a few metres away, but the path that led to it was so winding that it took us quite a while to get there. It was here that our glasses were set out. Our drink of punch was cooling in an ornamental pond, on whose bank the shelter was built. The pond has a small ‘island’ in the middle, where Wemmick had built a fountain.</div>
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‘I am my own engineer, my own carpenter, my own plumber and my own gardener. I am my own Jack of all Trades,’ said Wemmick, acknowledging my compliments. ‘Well, it’s a good thing, you know. It pleases the Aged Parent. You would not mind being introduced to him, would you? It wouldn’t bother you?</div>
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I felt that I could only agree. Inside, we found a very old man in a flannel coat sitting by a fire. He was clean, cheerful and well cared for, but almost completely deaf. We paid our respects and made some small conversation. Then, Wemmick showed me his collection of curiousities. They were mostly to do with being on the wrong side of the law: a pen with which a famous forgery had been committed, a couple of distinguished razors, some locks of hair, several manuscript confessions written from the prison. These were nicely spread out among small items of porcelain and glass and various things made by Wemmick himself. They were all in that room of the Castle that served not only as the sitting room, but judging from the saucepan on the hob, as the kitchen, too.</div>
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We returned to the garden to drink our punch. Wemmick told me that it had taken him many years to bring his property to this state of perfection.</div>
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‘Is it your own, Mr. Wemmick?’</div>
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‘Oh yes, I have got a hold of it a bit at a time. I have absolute ownership now.’</div>
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‘Do you indeed? I hope Mr. Jaggers admires it?’</div>
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‘Never seen it,’ said Wemmick, ‘never heard of it. No; the office is one thing, and private life is another. When I go to the office, I leave the Castle behind me, and when I come into the Castle, I live the office behind me. If you don’t mind, I’d like you to do the same. I don’t want to talk about my home in a professional manner.’</div>
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<span style="background-color: white; color: #252525; font-family: sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 1.5em;">Sometimes I get this crazy dream</span><span style="background-color: white; color: #252525; font-family: sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 1.5em;">And I just take off in my car</span><span style="background-color: white; color: #252525; font-family: sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 1.5em;">But you can travel on ten thousand miles</span><span style="background-color: white; color: #252525; font-family: sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 1.5em;">And still stay where you are.</span></blockquote>
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<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">The reason why I refuse to take existentialism as just another French fashion or historical curiosity is that I think it has something very important to offer us for the new century. I'm afraid we're losing the real virtues of living life passionately, sense of taking responsibility for who you are, the ability to make something of yourself and feeling good about life. Existentialism is often discussed as if it's a philosophy of despair. But I think the truth is just the opposite. Sartre once interviewed said he never really felt a day of despair in his life. But one thing that comes out from reading these guys is not a sense of anguish about life so much as a real kind of exuberance of feeling on top of it. It's like your life is yours to create. I've read the postmodernists with some interest, even admiration. But when I read them, I always have this awful nagging feeling that something absolutely essential is getting left out. The more that you talk about a person as a social construction or as a confluence of forces or as fragmented or marginalized, what you do is you open up a whole new world of excuses. And when Sartre talks about responsibility, he's not talking about something abstract. He's not talking about the kind of self or soul that theologians would argue about. It's something very concrete. It's you and me talking. Making decisions. Doing things and taking the consequences. It might be true that there are six billion people in the world and counting. Nevertheless, what you do makes a difference. It makes a difference, first of all, in material terms. Makes a difference to other people and it sets an example. In short, I think the message here is that we should never simply write ourselves off and see ourselves as the victim of various forces. It's always our decision who we are.</span></blockquote>
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The secret of health for both mind and body is not to mourn for the past, worry about the future, or anticipate troubles, but to live in the present moment wisely and earnestly.</blockquote>
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one seminar where I was speaking on the concept of proactivity, a man came up
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<span style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; font-size: 11.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-ansi-language: EN-GB; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-bidi; mso-fareast-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;"> "That's
right," he reaffirmed. </span></blockquote>
<br />
<blockquote class="tr_bq">
<span style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; font-size: 11.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-ansi-language: EN-GB; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-bidi; mso-fareast-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">"And we
have three children we're really concerned about. What do you suggest?" </span></blockquote>
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<span style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; font-size: 11.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-ansi-language: EN-GB; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-bidi; mso-fareast-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;"> "Love her," I replied. </span></blockquote>
<br />
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<span style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; font-size: 11.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-ansi-language: EN-GB; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-bidi; mso-fareast-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;"> "I told you, the feeling just isn't
there anymore." </span></blockquote>
<br />
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<span style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; font-size: 11.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-ansi-language: EN-GB; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-bidi; mso-fareast-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;"> "Love
her." </span></blockquote>
<br />
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<span style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; font-size: 11.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-ansi-language: EN-GB; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-bidi; mso-fareast-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;"> "You don't
understand. The feeling of love just
isn't there." </span></blockquote>
<br />
<blockquote class="tr_bq">
<span style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; font-size: 11.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-ansi-language: EN-GB; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-bidi; mso-fareast-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;"> "Then love
her. If the feeling isn't there, that's
a good reason to love her."</span></blockquote>
<br />
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<span style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; font-size: 11.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-ansi-language: EN-GB; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-bidi; mso-fareast-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">
"But how do you love when you don't love?" </span></blockquote>
<br />
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<span style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; font-size: 11.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-ansi-language: EN-GB; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-bidi; mso-fareast-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">"My friend, love is a verb. Love -- the feeling -- is a fruit of love the
verb. So love her. Sacrifice.
Listen to her. Empathize. Appreciate.
Affirm her. Are you willing to do
that?"</span></blockquote>
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Stephen Covey 7<a href="http://www.amazon.co.uk/The-Habits-Highly-Effective-People/dp/1455892823" target="_blank"> Habits of Highly Effective Living </a><div class="blogger-post-footer">Books: Achieve Your Potential with Positive Psychology & Wise Therapy
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Hitchhiker’s Guide to the Galaxy</i><span class="apple-converted-space"> </span>is
one of idealism, struggle, despair, passion, success, failure, and enormously
long lunch breaks</span><br />
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<span style="background: white; font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 11pt; line-height: 115%;">Douglas Adams </span><i style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14.6666669845581px; line-height: 16.8666667938232px;">The Hitchhiker’s Guide to the Galaxy</i><div class="blogger-post-footer">Books: Achieve Your Potential with Positive Psychology & Wise Therapy
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I wish my life and decisions to depend on myself, not on
external forces of whatever kind, I wish to be an instrument of my own, not of
other men’s, acts of will. I wish to be moved by reasons, by conscious
purposes, which are my own, not by causes which affect me, as it were, from
outside. I wish to be a doer … deciding, not being decided for, self-directed
and not acted upon by external nature</blockquote>
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Isaiah Berlin <a href="https://www.google.co.uk/url?sa=t&rct=j&q=&esrc=s&source=web&cd=2&cad=rja&uact=8&ved=0CCgQFjAB&url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.wiso.uni-hamburg.de%2Ffileadmin%2Fwiso_vwl%2Fjohannes%2FAnkuendigungen%2FBerlin_twoconceptsofliberty.pdf&ei=ZwzzVK77MMjpUqaXgdAE&usg=AFQjCNEo6OjbWxZiXwuTGmLi9c5H3NQZaA&sig2=7IfbJYgatHzvZAtnJSbhqw&bvm=bv.87269000,d.ZGU" target="_blank">Two Concepts of Liberty </a><br />
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