Robert Sternberg on what makes for a fulfilling intimate loving relationship

Love has three components:

(a) intimacy, which encompasses the feelings of closeness, connectedness, and bondedness one experiences in loving relationships;
(b) passion, which encompasses the drives that lead to romance, physical attraction, and sexual consummation; and
(c) decision/commitment, which encompasses, in the short term, the decision that one loves another, and in the long term, the commitment to maintain that love

Robert Sternberg, The Triangular Theory of Love


I discuss how the Triangular Theory of Love can help you understand - and improve - relationships in  in Achieve Your Potential with Positive Psychology

How compassion can help someone hearing voices - and maybe the rest of us too ...

www.compassionforvoices.com

On not feeling inapppriate shame from Good Will Hunting

It's not your fault   ... It's not your fault ... It's not your fault  .. It's not your fault

Sean (Robin Williams)  to Will (Matt Damon) in Good Will Hunting

Paul Gilbert on the nature of compassion

Compassion is a sensitivity to suffering with a commitment to try to alleviate and prevent that suffering.

Paul Gilbert, psychologist and founder of CFT (Compassion Focussed Therapy)